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January 2015 archive

Nourish yourself with 10 easy things you can do today

tea cupToday my children returned to school.  After six weeks of blissfully easy going mornings with no rushing around, there was a flurry of early morning activity and off they went.

The silence in the house is deafening.

For me though, I need the silence, I need to be still and quiet and just be.  It is the easiest way I have found to nourish myself and tune into the frequency of my heart and soul.  Enjoying a cuppa in the silence, writing in my journal it truly is my idea of bliss.

You might not have the perfect day today, maybe you are at work, maybe you have young kids at home or maybe your to do list is longer than you hoped.  But doing something just for you doesn’t need to be complicated or time consuming.

Here are 10 ways to easily nourish yourself today, see how many you can do now:

  1. Be grateful – say 10 things you are grateful for right now- say them out loud, write them down but feel grateful – it instantly enhances your mood.
  2. Breathe – yep slow and deep deliberate breaths to really centre yourself.
  3. Go outside and look up into the sky – marvel at the clouds, the bright blue sky, the drizzling rain. Just being outside can instantly transform you.
  4. Do something you love today that is just for you – read a few pages of your favourite book, catch up on a show you have been busting to see, take a bath.  Whatever works for you.
  5. Enjoy your favourite dinner tonight.
  6. Catch up with a friend – a chat, a phone call, maybe even only a text to let them know you are thinking of them.
  7. Listen to your favourite song, in the car or at home.  Crank it up if you want and escape for those few precious minutes.
  8. Keep a journal, write in it when you can or when it feels right.  This helps to get out all of that stuff swirling around in your head.  Plus it makes for great reading down the track!
  9. Drink some water, eat some fruit, do something that instantly nourishes your body that you know is super good for you.
  10. Use your good stuff.  Don’t wait for another day to use the good tea cup or the new top you have just purchased.  You are worth it right now, so don’t wait for tomorrow, you deserve it now!

Make time for yourself a priority, even if you need to schedule it in for later. Go for that walk after work, when the kids are napping – lie down yourself, before you go to bed tonight – read that book.

Nourishing yourself should be an important part of your day.  It’s not selfish to treat yourself with love and respect.  Enhancing your mood and feeling good will have a huge flow on effect to all of those around you.

“When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.” – Jean Shinoda Bolen

 

What are you doing today just for you?

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A Grateful Pause

3 birdsIt’s been a trying couple of days.  Actually probably a trying week.  As school holidays draw to a close as a family we seem to be getting busier and busier, the kids are fighting with each other more and my fuse is probably shorter than I would like.

My kids (especially my 2 boys) are seriously busy.  The ones that when you see them out you think ‘wow those boys never stop, they keep going and going’. Well that is my lot to a tee.  My friends are constantly amazed as I always seem ‘calm’.  Whilst I do strive to be a calming influence like everyone some days it is harder to keep it together than others.

Take last night for example, because my children have all of this energy it is hard to wind them down for sleep, so it takes a long time for them to go to sleep.  Couple this with the constant – I just need a drink, I think I have a teeny tiny cut on my finger ‘see there, no here actually on this finger I think, well it was” and every other excuse known to man for why they are out of their bedrooms. Again.   I was losing my patience fast.

So what did I do?

I sat and closed my eyes.  I spent a few moments just breathing and centering myself.  Then I quickly thought of some things I was grateful for (and yes kids were one of them!).   It is amazing how quickly this can turn your bad or angry mood around.   Being grateful changes everything.  You, your mood, the way you view the situation you are in so ultimately how you deal with it.

I was calmer and firm with the kids without coming across stressed or angry.  This made a huge difference to the dynamics of the situation and made for a peaceful and much more pleasant end to the evening.

I use this technique often as it is literally so easy to do and takes so little time.  It is moments, sometimes minutes but usually just a few moments, breathing and thinking of the things you are most grateful for.

There are probably 3 periods each day for me when the stress levels are at their worse and for me they are mornings – especially school mornings when that school bell is looming, dinner time when your super busy and everything seems to need your attention and bedtime especially in our house getting the kids to stay in their bed.  I will use this in all of my stressful situations.

As I strive to fill my days with gratitude this is also an added way I can incorporate even more of it into my life.  Try it and see how it can help to calm you down and face the world a little brighter and lighter.

I would love to know what helps you through those stressful periods.  If you try this technique please let me know how it impacts how you are feeling and the situation you are in.

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Permission Granted: No need for perfection here

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One of my goals this year, was to break free from my comfort zone and start this blog.  The ideas for which have been bubbling away inside for quite some time.  Starting out was scary but I managed to get those first few posts out so thought from here on I would be in the groove and things would just flow along nicely.

I was wrong.

I have been paralysed with fear.  Fear that I haven’t got the perfect thing to dish up next.  I made sure I prepared well and had blog posts ready to go but as I have gone to use them nothing has seemed right, seemed enough, seemed good enough to share. I have spent the last few days thinking about how the next thing I write has to be amazing and blow everyone away with killer content and deep soul connecting messages. Talk about piling the pressure on myself!!!

After some quiet soul searching (for me otherwise known as meditation) I decided that I need to let go of the pressure to be perfect and just keep on going.  We don’t have to produce something perfect every single time.  I am not saying to not do your best work but sometimes fear that something isn’t perfect holds us back from getting out there and just doing or being or enjoying.

Other times we are waiting for something to be ‘perfect’ before we move or take action in the direction we want to be heading.

 

“Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’ Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along”.                                                                                               George Herbert

 

I am just loving that quote.  I may not have all the answers and some days are harder than others but I will work with what I have today and improve and grow as I go through this journey.

Is there something you have been putting off doing because the conditions are not right? Instead of striving for that perfection or waiting for a better time is there something you can do TODAY to put you on that path?   Map out some small steps you can achieve bit by bit, schedule some time in your diary to review or work on your plan.  Make a commitment to yourself that you will start or keep going and there will be

No stopping

It might not be something huge and life changing maybe you just want to show up, have a go or get started on something new and exciting.

When the little voice in your head (your inner critic) starts that self defeating chatter find ways to quiet your mind, push past the fears holding you back, forget the need for it to be perfect every time and just get out there and give it a go.  There will be mistakes and tears and wrong turns in life but let’s just forge ahead anyway.

Together let’s give ourselves permission to be imperfect, to mess up, to feel out of our depths and to not be sure about what’s coming next.

I would love to know how you are moving towards your goals and dreams or just showing up and giving life a go. Are you moving forward with small steady steps or great huge leaps of faith?

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Where is the path leading me?

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I have almost always had a plan and life goals that I want to achieve.  I have firmly known the exact way I want my life to go.  There have been jobs, kids, houses, career changes and all the fun that goes along with each of them.

But at the moment I am flying blind, I am not sure what my next step will be.  Now my children are settled in at school I can focus on what I want to be doing.  But what is that exactly?  What is calling my name and beckoning me to follow?

It’s exciting but it’s also completely freaking me out.  I should have all the answers by now shouldn’t I? I am guessing not and I am quite sure none of us will ever have all the answers we think we should.

I was watching ‘The Secret’ last night and there was a part of it about trust.  The analogy was about driving in a car at night, you can only see a certain distance in front of you but you trust that as you drive along the path more will become visible to you as you go along.

It really resonated with me as I have been feeling quite overwhelmed that I don’t have an exact plan, I cannot pinpoint exactly the path I want to be on.  I know many people can, and I know I have been one of those people in the past, setting goals and ticking them off as I chart my course.

But this time it’s different, this time I am forging ahead unsure of what might reveal itself a little way down the path.  It’s exciting, it’s exhilarating and I am ready and willing to write this new chapter in my life.

My intentions have been set – I intend to embrace this journey, this path I am taking with love in my heart, with gratitude in my soul and a deep sense of trust that the universe will take me where I need to go.

I know that my part of this journey is not about waiting for something to happen it’s about trying something new and giving it a go.  Inspired action.  So 2015 has been the year I started this blog, started writing about all the bits and pieces of my life that matter to me and trusting the pieces of the puzzle will fit together and propel me forward.

 

“I see my path, but I don’t know where it leads. Not knowing where I’m going is what inspires me to travel it”.
Rosalia de Castro

 

Already in this short space of time this has opened the doors for me to meet some amazing women for which I am eternally grateful.  They are honouring themselves and striving to live the life of their dreams.  I hope in the coming months I can introduce you to some of these amazing inspiring ladies.

But for now I want to know what adventures are you heading on?  Do you have a plan or are you also waiting for the headlights to light your way?

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Photo taken at Crystal Castle and Shambhala Gardens, Mullumbimby, NSW. 

Setting intentions – The Power of Daily Intentions

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One of the biggest lessons I have learnt lately is how important it is to set your intentions.  These can be big or small.  Intentions on how you plan to live the day, the week, your year, your life.  What qualities, what feelings and what experiences do you intend to have in your life?

For me, I like to try and set a simple daily intention.  An intention is like a plan or an aim so it is normally for me a feeling I want to achieve and this helps set the tone for the day.

With a large family and busy household, my daily intention often settles around wanting to be in the flow for the day.  To me that word flow means more than the dictionary meaning of moving steadily and continuously.  It is also about feeling in control and moving at the pace needed without fuss and nonsense.   It’s not to say that the day runs smoothly in this pattern but by setting that intention first thing in the morning, whenever my day seems to be going the exact opposite I can take some deep breaths, remember that intention and re-focus myself.  It does wonders in bringing me back down from stressful situations, calming the nerves when they are frazzled and reminding me that is not how I want my day to be.

Sometimes you may set an intention for a part of your day or even a moment in your day. If you are heading into a meeting or to see someone your intention could be “I intend to feel confident and in control”, “I intend to really connect with my colleagues” or “I intend to really make a contribution in today’s meeting”.  By having that intention at the forefront of your mind it helps you to stay true to how you want this part of your day to progress and keep you moving forward in your chosen direction.

Here are some more that I love:

I intend to nurture and nourish myself today (that was me on New Year’s Day)

I intend to have fun and adventure with my family today

I intend to show kindness and love to all those I am with today

It is important that you find the ones that suit you and they don’t have to start with “I intend”.  Some times for me they sound more like:

Today I choose to be grateful

Today I will show love and kindness to everyone I meet

Today I choose to nourish my heart and soul

I truly believe using this simple practice will incorporate a little magic into your life.  It is simple and quick and reminds you how you want to be living your life. I would love to hear how you use intentions to shape your moments, days, weeks and lives.  Do you have a ritual for intention setting or is it simply a couple of moments where you know exactly how you want your day to run?

I hope your day is full of all the things your heart desires, I hope you are living with intention and choosing the life of your dreams.

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Listen to your heart – My favourite daily practice

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I love to meditate.  It’s something only relatively new to me, maybe only the last 6 months.  I like to try and meditate everyday but I seem to go through ebbs and flows with it.  When I manage to do it regularly I can really feel the difference.  I am happier, I am lighter and I have more faith.

 

I mean more faith in myself.  It grounds me and brings me back to my inner self.  It allows me the space to sort out all the chatter in my mind and brings a degree of calm and peaceful emotion over me.  It separates the rubbish going around in my head from the real gems, the things I should be thinking and feeling and the actions I should be taking.

 

For me, I love to sit in my special chair, sit in silence for a while until I feel grounded, grab a deck of tarot or oracle cards and do myself a mini reading and then journal my thoughts.  The silence at the start is really my key to unlocking the details I write down later.  It never seems to be anything negative just messages of pure love and joy.  Sometimes the messages are a mini action plan of what is important to achieve but it is never soured with a negative or full of reasons why it cannot be done.

 

That’s why I find this activity so incredibly amazing and the single thing that has changed my life for the better and made so many things clear to me.

 

There are many ways to meditate and sometimes it takes practice to find the one that suits you the most.  I know some people prefer to use guided meditations or even attend group classes.  It can be as simple as sitting out in nature or just closing your eyes for a few precious moments.    It is whatever works for YOU.  Really to me I think it is about quieting the mind and focusing on my breath.  This creates a sense of calmness to me like no other and allows that mind chatter to diminish.  So what ever helps to quiet your mind and bring you back to the amazing energy that you actually are, is the perfect way to meditate for you.

 

Do you enjoy meditation and how do you do your practice?  Is it something you do on a daily basis or when you can fit it in?  I do let it slide some days but I know the days I make time for it I am a better person all round and ready to take on the days challenges with more clarity and increased enthusiasm.

 

So today is the day I pledge I will not let it slip again, today is the day I reaffirm to myself that I am worth it and this practice is one I will make the time for, I hope you will join me.

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Photo taken at Crystal Castle and Shambhala Gardens, Mullumbimby, NSW. 

A Fresh Start

green juiceWell welcome to 2015 and welcome to my very first blog post. It seemed kind of appropriate to start here on the first day of a fresh shiny new year.

Now don’t let that photo fool you, this place is not all about green juices and nutrition, because there is so much more that goes into honouring your heart and soul. I did start off my morning this way because I knew that is what my body needed. And I think that is the heart of the matter, sometimes we just know what we need and I think its important to listen and follow that inner voice. After a little too much indulgence over the festive period and many late nights my body was screaming out for some pure nutrition so that is what it got!

I hope you can spend this first day of the year with the ones you love (plenty of family time here coming up) and honouring yourself by giving yourself exactly what you need – right now.

I hope you stay with me on this journey – of self discovery – of all things love, light, positivity and spirituality. I hope in some way I can help you to live with heart and soul.

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