It’s been a trying couple of days. Actually probably a trying week. As school holidays draw to a close as a family we seem to be getting busier and busier, the kids are fighting with each other more and my fuse is probably shorter than I would like.
My kids (especially my 2 boys) are seriously busy. The ones that when you see them out you think ‘wow those boys never stop, they keep going and going’. Well that is my lot to a tee. My friends are constantly amazed as I always seem ‘calm’. Whilst I do strive to be a calming influence like everyone some days it is harder to keep it together than others.
Take last night for example, because my children have all of this energy it is hard to wind them down for sleep, so it takes a long time for them to go to sleep. Couple this with the constant – I just need a drink, I think I have a teeny tiny cut on my finger ‘see there, no here actually on this finger I think, well it was” and every other excuse known to man for why they are out of their bedrooms. Again. I was losing my patience fast.
So what did I do?
I sat and closed my eyes. I spent a few moments just breathing and centering myself. Then I quickly thought of some things I was grateful for (and yes kids were one of them!). It is amazing how quickly this can turn your bad or angry mood around. Being grateful changes everything. You, your mood, the way you view the situation you are in so ultimately how you deal with it.
I was calmer and firm with the kids without coming across stressed or angry. This made a huge difference to the dynamics of the situation and made for a peaceful and much more pleasant end to the evening.
I use this technique often as it is literally so easy to do and takes so little time. It is moments, sometimes minutes but usually just a few moments, breathing and thinking of the things you are most grateful for.
There are probably 3 periods each day for me when the stress levels are at their worse and for me they are mornings – especially school mornings when that school bell is looming, dinner time when your super busy and everything seems to need your attention and bedtime especially in our house getting the kids to stay in their bed. I will use this in all of my stressful situations.
As I strive to fill my days with gratitude this is also an added way I can incorporate even more of it into my life. Try it and see how it can help to calm you down and face the world a little brighter and lighter.
I would love to know what helps you through those stressful periods. If you try this technique please let me know how it impacts how you are feeling and the situation you are in.
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