Lately life has presented me with some opportunities that haven’t felt quite right. In the past I have been the type of person that would always agree and say ‘yes’ even if part of me was screaming no.
Part of my transition to truly living with heart and soul is learning to listen to my inner voice, that voice of intuition that truly knows what is best for me.
So that has meant learning to say no instead of jumping in and saying yes and then feeling disappointed in myself for not speaking my truth.
If you are familiar with Chakra’s you will know that the throat charka is all about communication. When ever I have had energy work completed in the past there is almost always a blockage for me in my throat charka. I know this has been due to my inability to speak up to others when I need too.
So what does this all mean?
To truly live the life we love we must honour ourselves first. If something doesn’t feel quite right, don’t immediately agree to it. Instead of saying yes without thinking it properly through, tell them you will let them know and then take that time to decide for yourself, is this something you truly want to be doing, or is your answer a polite no.
Hayhouse author Cheryl Richardson has a whole chapter devoted to this in her book “The Art of Extreme Self-Care” The chapter is called Let me Disappoint You and this is a little piece from it:
“You’ll need to start saying no, setting limits, and putting boundaries in place to protect your time, energy and emotional needs”. Cheryl Richardson
So how does it feel to say no?
Well approaching it in a manner that is truthful and kind really is key. It is difficult enough if someone has asked something of you and you cannot commit so being tactful and expressing your true feelings really is the best course of action for everyone concerned. After all going along with something when your heart is just not in it, doesn’t benefit them either.
Initially I have been worried about hurting the feelings of others and although that is still a concern for me, to actually speak up and express my true feelings is very empowering. I know that each time I speak my true feelings I gain more confidence to travel the path I desire.
This has been a huge lesson for me lately and one that I know will come up for me time and time again.
Are there any life lessons that come up for you time and time again?
What have you had to say no to lately and how did that make you feel?
photo credit Renee Bell via Little Girls with Great Big Dreams