I had this sweet blog post to share with you all today about how I am telling myself a different message to help me get more out of my day.
But today doesn’t feel like the day for that one.
Any of my friends would probably tell you some of the words to describe me are calm and patient. I have 4 children – one a teenager, one girl who thinks she is a teenager and 2 boisterous noisy messy boys! There is never a dull moment in this house. There is fighting, there is noise (boy is there noise) and there is mess. There is also lots of laughs, games, fun and bucketful’s of love I might add. But through it all I am often asked how I remain so calm.
I would like to think it’s my meditation and mindful practices that come into play here but I know they are only something I recently truly adopted into my life. I guess I have always been on the calmer side and am naturally more of a peace maker rather than a person that gets their back up easily. I do enjoy being that calming influence in an otherwise hectic situation.
This morning though was one of those mornings where my patience and my inner calm were truly tested. For starters I woke up tired and groggy and I am not normally one to hit the snooze button but in that instant when I thought about where I could cut corners in my morning that felt like a good idea. So snooze button it was. 10 minutes later and I really needed to get up. All of my children seem to be night owls and are not great in the morning so it is a real mission to get them out of bed. (Side note here: any ideas for getting children out of bed easily – I am contemplating a water pistol next???).
Once everyone was awake my 8 year old son just had to pick on his little brother so it was a morning of boys fighting and rolling around the floor brawling. It was a morning of a daughter who didn’t brush her hair last night after the shower so was practically in tears through the whole hair brushing saga. This is the child who also seems to work in slow motion when it is getting ready for school time. I felt pushed and pulled in all different directions as I tried to finish off lunches, referee the boys, keep everyone moving and try to get out the door on time.
It was one of those mornings. Noisy. Chaotic. Draining. Real.
Oh and did I mention they made it to school 5 minutes AFTER the bell today.
Now I am at home to clean up the chaos of the morning and hopefully fit in some time to meditate and calm my mind. It’s no surprise to me that hitting that snooze button this morning put me on the back foot from the start as I rushed through my morning and didn’t do the things I like to do to make sure I start my mornings right (setting intentions, being grateful – just simple and so quick to do). Instead I started the day thinking and knowing I was behind schedule and my children probably picked up on my energy and the whole morning was pretty much a shambles.
So I am not calm ALL of the time and many days my children can and do really push my buttons.
My lesson today – no snooze button, have a mindful morning (no matter how rushed you are) and find a water pistol to get the kids out of bed quickly tomorrow!
I would love to know how your morning was today? Is yours also a mixture of calm one minute and chaos the next?
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