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Keeping it Real

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I had this sweet blog post to share with you all today about how I am telling myself a different message to help me get more out of my day.

 

But today doesn’t feel like the day for that one.

 

Any of my friends would probably tell you some of the words to describe me are calm and patient.  I have 4 children – one a teenager, one girl who thinks she is a teenager and 2 boisterous noisy messy boys! There is never a dull moment in this house.  There is fighting, there is noise (boy is there noise) and there is mess.  There is also lots of laughs, games, fun and bucketful’s of love I might add. But through it all I am often asked how I remain so calm.

 

I would like to think it’s my meditation and mindful practices that come into play here but I know they are only something I recently truly adopted into my life.  I guess I have always been on the calmer side and am naturally more of a peace maker rather than a person that gets their back up easily.  I do enjoy being that calming influence in an otherwise hectic situation.

 

This morning though was one of those mornings where my patience and my inner calm were truly tested.  For starters I woke up tired and groggy and I am not normally one to hit the snooze button but in that instant when I thought about where I could cut corners in my morning that felt like a good idea.  So snooze button it was.   10 minutes later and I really needed to get up.  All of my children seem to be night owls and are not great in the morning so it is a real mission to get them out of bed.  (Side note here: any ideas for getting children out of bed easily – I am contemplating a water pistol next???).

 

Once everyone was awake my 8 year old son just had to pick on his little brother so it was a morning of boys fighting and rolling around the floor brawling.  It was a morning of a daughter who didn’t brush her hair last night after the shower so was practically in tears through the whole hair brushing saga.  This is the child who also seems to work in slow motion when it is getting ready for school time.  I felt pushed and pulled in all different directions as I tried to finish off lunches, referee the boys, keep everyone moving and try to get out the door on time.

 

It was one of those mornings.  Noisy. Chaotic.  Draining.  Real.

 

Oh and did I mention they made it to school 5 minutes AFTER the bell today.

 

Now I am at home to clean up the chaos of the morning and hopefully fit in some time to meditate and calm my mind.  It’s no surprise to me that hitting that snooze button this morning put me on the back foot from the start as I rushed through my morning and didn’t do the things I like to do to make sure I start my mornings right (setting intentions, being grateful – just simple and so quick to do).  Instead I started the day thinking and knowing I was behind schedule and my children probably picked up on my energy and the whole morning was pretty much a shambles.

 

So I am not calm ALL of the time and many days my children can and do really push my buttons.

 

My lesson today – no snooze button, have a mindful morning (no matter how rushed you are) and find a water pistol to get the kids out of bed quickly tomorrow!

 

I would love to know how your morning was today?  Is yours also a mixture of calm one minute and chaos the next?

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Moments that matter

walkway unsplashThis morning I was greeted by my son running in and jumping into my bed and giving me a great big cuddle. Being that he is not the most affectionate child to begin with these simple acts have so much meaning to me.

 

As I got up and ready for the day ahead he stayed in my bed chatting to me the whole time.   His brother is 2 years younger than he is; they share a room, share common interests and are pretty much thick as thieves.  When he got up and couldn’t find his big brother he asked me where he was.  By this time I was in the kitchen preparing breakfast and told him he would find his brother in my room.  He went tearing through the house, screaming excitedly while he found his brother.  By the time I went in there they were laying in bed together, hugging and the joy on their faces was priceless!

 

What a great start to my day.

 

I was able to spend those few precious moments looking at these 2 amazing beings, full of love and joy and happiness and soak up that emotion.  My heart was filled with love and gratitude and the rush rush rush of the morning was replaced with incredible joy.

 

These are the moments that matter. These are the moments to treasure.

 

I am guilty lately of getting caught up in the busy.  The rush.  The never ending to do list and moving quickly from one activity to the next.  Sometimes I have to remind myself to eat lunch or take a quick breather as otherwise the days can be over in the blink of an eye. This morning I was reminded that small moments can have huge impact in our lives and if we are too busy we can miss what is staring us in the face.

I have always loved this quote and it seems so perfect for me today

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I hope in your busy day you have taken the time to really cherish the beautiful moments that make up your life.  Next time you are immersed in that joyful and happy place I hope you can take a moment and say thank you.

I would love to know what little moments have made your heart sing today.

I hope you have a beautiful weekend – making memories, enjoying life and living with heart and soul.

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A Grateful Pause

3 birdsIt’s been a trying couple of days.  Actually probably a trying week.  As school holidays draw to a close as a family we seem to be getting busier and busier, the kids are fighting with each other more and my fuse is probably shorter than I would like.

My kids (especially my 2 boys) are seriously busy.  The ones that when you see them out you think ‘wow those boys never stop, they keep going and going’. Well that is my lot to a tee.  My friends are constantly amazed as I always seem ‘calm’.  Whilst I do strive to be a calming influence like everyone some days it is harder to keep it together than others.

Take last night for example, because my children have all of this energy it is hard to wind them down for sleep, so it takes a long time for them to go to sleep.  Couple this with the constant – I just need a drink, I think I have a teeny tiny cut on my finger ‘see there, no here actually on this finger I think, well it was” and every other excuse known to man for why they are out of their bedrooms. Again.   I was losing my patience fast.

So what did I do?

I sat and closed my eyes.  I spent a few moments just breathing and centering myself.  Then I quickly thought of some things I was grateful for (and yes kids were one of them!).   It is amazing how quickly this can turn your bad or angry mood around.   Being grateful changes everything.  You, your mood, the way you view the situation you are in so ultimately how you deal with it.

I was calmer and firm with the kids without coming across stressed or angry.  This made a huge difference to the dynamics of the situation and made for a peaceful and much more pleasant end to the evening.

I use this technique often as it is literally so easy to do and takes so little time.  It is moments, sometimes minutes but usually just a few moments, breathing and thinking of the things you are most grateful for.

There are probably 3 periods each day for me when the stress levels are at their worse and for me they are mornings – especially school mornings when that school bell is looming, dinner time when your super busy and everything seems to need your attention and bedtime especially in our house getting the kids to stay in their bed.  I will use this in all of my stressful situations.

As I strive to fill my days with gratitude this is also an added way I can incorporate even more of it into my life.  Try it and see how it can help to calm you down and face the world a little brighter and lighter.

I would love to know what helps you through those stressful periods.  If you try this technique please let me know how it impacts how you are feeling and the situation you are in.

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