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Change your story

 

water sunriseWhat is something you tell yourself that you would really like to change?  I know for me, it is that I am “not a morning person”.  I have always thought you were either a morning person or a night owl, and myself and my entire family all easily fit into the latter category.

 

When I hear the story of the person who has put a load of washing on, cooked their breakfast, exercised, meditated whatever it is before I have even woken up for the day I am impressed.  I wish that could be me.  Then that little voice pipes in and says “but you are not a morning person”.  Ok I think that will never be me.

 

My days seem so full lately that I cannot possibly fit everything in and these days in particular always see me wishing I had achieved more while the house was quiet.  Imagining if I only had an extra 20 minutes to squeeze out of my day.

 

And you know what – I do.

 

It’s in the morning.  When I would rather be in bed. 

 

I do always try to set my intention for the day as I first wake and spend a few moments planning out my day but this is always such a quick practice when what I would really like is a good solid 20 minutes of peacefully and calmly beginning my day.

 

So today I set the alarm 20 minutes earlier (it’s a start) and headed straight over to meditate and journal.  If in my day I get a chance to do it again for even longer that will be a bonus to my day.  But knowing I have taken that time to complete something so precious to me has really helped my morning and day to flow. I feel so much more centrered, so much calmer and ready to take on the day.

 

Oh and I stopped telling myself that I am not a morning person and just focused on what I wanted to achieve – time to myself before everyone else in the house is awake for the day. So I am trying my best to replace “I am not a morning person” with “I wake up in time to achieve what I need” and that makes me feel so much more in control.

 

I can’t promise every day this is going to work for me, but I am going to make it my intention every night that I wake a little earlier and start my day in the way that really feels right to me.

 

Do you tell yourself things that don’t serve you?  Maybe today you can take a few moments to think about those things and rephrase your story.  Or make up a whole different one that serves you better, inspires you to make changes for your greater good and helps to stop those self-defeating beliefs.

 

Tell me a bit about how you can change your story and have an amazing day today!

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Keeping it Real

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I had this sweet blog post to share with you all today about how I am telling myself a different message to help me get more out of my day.

 

But today doesn’t feel like the day for that one.

 

Any of my friends would probably tell you some of the words to describe me are calm and patient.  I have 4 children – one a teenager, one girl who thinks she is a teenager and 2 boisterous noisy messy boys! There is never a dull moment in this house.  There is fighting, there is noise (boy is there noise) and there is mess.  There is also lots of laughs, games, fun and bucketful’s of love I might add. But through it all I am often asked how I remain so calm.

 

I would like to think it’s my meditation and mindful practices that come into play here but I know they are only something I recently truly adopted into my life.  I guess I have always been on the calmer side and am naturally more of a peace maker rather than a person that gets their back up easily.  I do enjoy being that calming influence in an otherwise hectic situation.

 

This morning though was one of those mornings where my patience and my inner calm were truly tested.  For starters I woke up tired and groggy and I am not normally one to hit the snooze button but in that instant when I thought about where I could cut corners in my morning that felt like a good idea.  So snooze button it was.   10 minutes later and I really needed to get up.  All of my children seem to be night owls and are not great in the morning so it is a real mission to get them out of bed.  (Side note here: any ideas for getting children out of bed easily – I am contemplating a water pistol next???).

 

Once everyone was awake my 8 year old son just had to pick on his little brother so it was a morning of boys fighting and rolling around the floor brawling.  It was a morning of a daughter who didn’t brush her hair last night after the shower so was practically in tears through the whole hair brushing saga.  This is the child who also seems to work in slow motion when it is getting ready for school time.  I felt pushed and pulled in all different directions as I tried to finish off lunches, referee the boys, keep everyone moving and try to get out the door on time.

 

It was one of those mornings.  Noisy. Chaotic.  Draining.  Real.

 

Oh and did I mention they made it to school 5 minutes AFTER the bell today.

 

Now I am at home to clean up the chaos of the morning and hopefully fit in some time to meditate and calm my mind.  It’s no surprise to me that hitting that snooze button this morning put me on the back foot from the start as I rushed through my morning and didn’t do the things I like to do to make sure I start my mornings right (setting intentions, being grateful – just simple and so quick to do).  Instead I started the day thinking and knowing I was behind schedule and my children probably picked up on my energy and the whole morning was pretty much a shambles.

 

So I am not calm ALL of the time and many days my children can and do really push my buttons.

 

My lesson today – no snooze button, have a mindful morning (no matter how rushed you are) and find a water pistol to get the kids out of bed quickly tomorrow!

 

I would love to know how your morning was today?  Is yours also a mixture of calm one minute and chaos the next?

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Moments that matter

walkway unsplashThis morning I was greeted by my son running in and jumping into my bed and giving me a great big cuddle. Being that he is not the most affectionate child to begin with these simple acts have so much meaning to me.

 

As I got up and ready for the day ahead he stayed in my bed chatting to me the whole time.   His brother is 2 years younger than he is; they share a room, share common interests and are pretty much thick as thieves.  When he got up and couldn’t find his big brother he asked me where he was.  By this time I was in the kitchen preparing breakfast and told him he would find his brother in my room.  He went tearing through the house, screaming excitedly while he found his brother.  By the time I went in there they were laying in bed together, hugging and the joy on their faces was priceless!

 

What a great start to my day.

 

I was able to spend those few precious moments looking at these 2 amazing beings, full of love and joy and happiness and soak up that emotion.  My heart was filled with love and gratitude and the rush rush rush of the morning was replaced with incredible joy.

 

These are the moments that matter. These are the moments to treasure.

 

I am guilty lately of getting caught up in the busy.  The rush.  The never ending to do list and moving quickly from one activity to the next.  Sometimes I have to remind myself to eat lunch or take a quick breather as otherwise the days can be over in the blink of an eye. This morning I was reminded that small moments can have huge impact in our lives and if we are too busy we can miss what is staring us in the face.

I have always loved this quote and it seems so perfect for me today

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I hope in your busy day you have taken the time to really cherish the beautiful moments that make up your life.  Next time you are immersed in that joyful and happy place I hope you can take a moment and say thank you.

I would love to know what little moments have made your heart sing today.

I hope you have a beautiful weekend – making memories, enjoying life and living with heart and soul.

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Learning to say no

IMG_0197 copyLately life has presented me with some opportunities that haven’t felt quite right.  In the past I have been the type of person that would always agree and say ‘yes’ even if part of me was screaming no.

Part of my transition to truly living with heart and soul is learning to listen to my inner voice, that voice of intuition that truly knows what is best for me.

So that has meant learning to say no instead of jumping in and saying yes and then feeling disappointed in myself for not speaking my truth.

If you are familiar with Chakra’s you will know that the throat charka is all about communication. When ever I have had energy work completed in the past there is almost always a blockage for me in my throat charka.  I know this has been due to my inability to speak up to others when I need too.

So what does this all mean?

To truly live the life we love we must honour ourselves first.  If something doesn’t feel quite right, don’t immediately agree to it. Instead of saying yes without thinking it properly through, tell them you will let them know and then take that time to decide for yourself, is this something you truly want to be doing, or is your answer a polite no.

Hayhouse author Cheryl Richardson has a whole chapter devoted to this in her book “The Art of Extreme Self-Care” The chapter is called Let me Disappoint You and this is a little piece from it:

 

“You’ll need to start saying no, setting limits, and putting boundaries in place to protect your time, energy and emotional needs”.                                           Cheryl Richardson

 

So how does it feel to say no?

Well approaching it in a manner that is truthful and kind really is key.  It is difficult enough if someone has asked something of you and you cannot commit so being tactful and expressing your true feelings really is the best course of action for everyone concerned.  After all going along with something when your heart is just not in it, doesn’t benefit them either.

Initially I have been worried about hurting the feelings of others and although that is still a concern for me, to actually speak up and express my true feelings is very empowering.  I know that each time I speak my true feelings I gain more confidence to travel the path I desire.

This has been a huge lesson for me lately and one that I know will come up for me time and time again.

Are there any life lessons that come up for you time and time again?

What have you had to say no to lately and how did that make you feel?

 

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A Grateful Pause

3 birdsIt’s been a trying couple of days.  Actually probably a trying week.  As school holidays draw to a close as a family we seem to be getting busier and busier, the kids are fighting with each other more and my fuse is probably shorter than I would like.

My kids (especially my 2 boys) are seriously busy.  The ones that when you see them out you think ‘wow those boys never stop, they keep going and going’. Well that is my lot to a tee.  My friends are constantly amazed as I always seem ‘calm’.  Whilst I do strive to be a calming influence like everyone some days it is harder to keep it together than others.

Take last night for example, because my children have all of this energy it is hard to wind them down for sleep, so it takes a long time for them to go to sleep.  Couple this with the constant – I just need a drink, I think I have a teeny tiny cut on my finger ‘see there, no here actually on this finger I think, well it was” and every other excuse known to man for why they are out of their bedrooms. Again.   I was losing my patience fast.

So what did I do?

I sat and closed my eyes.  I spent a few moments just breathing and centering myself.  Then I quickly thought of some things I was grateful for (and yes kids were one of them!).   It is amazing how quickly this can turn your bad or angry mood around.   Being grateful changes everything.  You, your mood, the way you view the situation you are in so ultimately how you deal with it.

I was calmer and firm with the kids without coming across stressed or angry.  This made a huge difference to the dynamics of the situation and made for a peaceful and much more pleasant end to the evening.

I use this technique often as it is literally so easy to do and takes so little time.  It is moments, sometimes minutes but usually just a few moments, breathing and thinking of the things you are most grateful for.

There are probably 3 periods each day for me when the stress levels are at their worse and for me they are mornings – especially school mornings when that school bell is looming, dinner time when your super busy and everything seems to need your attention and bedtime especially in our house getting the kids to stay in their bed.  I will use this in all of my stressful situations.

As I strive to fill my days with gratitude this is also an added way I can incorporate even more of it into my life.  Try it and see how it can help to calm you down and face the world a little brighter and lighter.

I would love to know what helps you through those stressful periods.  If you try this technique please let me know how it impacts how you are feeling and the situation you are in.

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Permission Granted: No need for perfection here

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One of my goals this year, was to break free from my comfort zone and start this blog.  The ideas for which have been bubbling away inside for quite some time.  Starting out was scary but I managed to get those first few posts out so thought from here on I would be in the groove and things would just flow along nicely.

I was wrong.

I have been paralysed with fear.  Fear that I haven’t got the perfect thing to dish up next.  I made sure I prepared well and had blog posts ready to go but as I have gone to use them nothing has seemed right, seemed enough, seemed good enough to share. I have spent the last few days thinking about how the next thing I write has to be amazing and blow everyone away with killer content and deep soul connecting messages. Talk about piling the pressure on myself!!!

After some quiet soul searching (for me otherwise known as meditation) I decided that I need to let go of the pressure to be perfect and just keep on going.  We don’t have to produce something perfect every single time.  I am not saying to not do your best work but sometimes fear that something isn’t perfect holds us back from getting out there and just doing or being or enjoying.

Other times we are waiting for something to be ‘perfect’ before we move or take action in the direction we want to be heading.

 

“Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’ Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along”.                                                                                               George Herbert

 

I am just loving that quote.  I may not have all the answers and some days are harder than others but I will work with what I have today and improve and grow as I go through this journey.

Is there something you have been putting off doing because the conditions are not right? Instead of striving for that perfection or waiting for a better time is there something you can do TODAY to put you on that path?   Map out some small steps you can achieve bit by bit, schedule some time in your diary to review or work on your plan.  Make a commitment to yourself that you will start or keep going and there will be

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It might not be something huge and life changing maybe you just want to show up, have a go or get started on something new and exciting.

When the little voice in your head (your inner critic) starts that self defeating chatter find ways to quiet your mind, push past the fears holding you back, forget the need for it to be perfect every time and just get out there and give it a go.  There will be mistakes and tears and wrong turns in life but let’s just forge ahead anyway.

Together let’s give ourselves permission to be imperfect, to mess up, to feel out of our depths and to not be sure about what’s coming next.

I would love to know how you are moving towards your goals and dreams or just showing up and giving life a go. Are you moving forward with small steady steps or great huge leaps of faith?

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Where is the path leading me?

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I have almost always had a plan and life goals that I want to achieve.  I have firmly known the exact way I want my life to go.  There have been jobs, kids, houses, career changes and all the fun that goes along with each of them.

But at the moment I am flying blind, I am not sure what my next step will be.  Now my children are settled in at school I can focus on what I want to be doing.  But what is that exactly?  What is calling my name and beckoning me to follow?

It’s exciting but it’s also completely freaking me out.  I should have all the answers by now shouldn’t I? I am guessing not and I am quite sure none of us will ever have all the answers we think we should.

I was watching ‘The Secret’ last night and there was a part of it about trust.  The analogy was about driving in a car at night, you can only see a certain distance in front of you but you trust that as you drive along the path more will become visible to you as you go along.

It really resonated with me as I have been feeling quite overwhelmed that I don’t have an exact plan, I cannot pinpoint exactly the path I want to be on.  I know many people can, and I know I have been one of those people in the past, setting goals and ticking them off as I chart my course.

But this time it’s different, this time I am forging ahead unsure of what might reveal itself a little way down the path.  It’s exciting, it’s exhilarating and I am ready and willing to write this new chapter in my life.

My intentions have been set – I intend to embrace this journey, this path I am taking with love in my heart, with gratitude in my soul and a deep sense of trust that the universe will take me where I need to go.

I know that my part of this journey is not about waiting for something to happen it’s about trying something new and giving it a go.  Inspired action.  So 2015 has been the year I started this blog, started writing about all the bits and pieces of my life that matter to me and trusting the pieces of the puzzle will fit together and propel me forward.

 

“I see my path, but I don’t know where it leads. Not knowing where I’m going is what inspires me to travel it”.
Rosalia de Castro

 

Already in this short space of time this has opened the doors for me to meet some amazing women for which I am eternally grateful.  They are honouring themselves and striving to live the life of their dreams.  I hope in the coming months I can introduce you to some of these amazing inspiring ladies.

But for now I want to know what adventures are you heading on?  Do you have a plan or are you also waiting for the headlights to light your way?

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Photo taken at Crystal Castle and Shambhala Gardens, Mullumbimby, NSW. 

Setting intentions – The Power of Daily Intentions

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One of the biggest lessons I have learnt lately is how important it is to set your intentions.  These can be big or small.  Intentions on how you plan to live the day, the week, your year, your life.  What qualities, what feelings and what experiences do you intend to have in your life?

For me, I like to try and set a simple daily intention.  An intention is like a plan or an aim so it is normally for me a feeling I want to achieve and this helps set the tone for the day.

With a large family and busy household, my daily intention often settles around wanting to be in the flow for the day.  To me that word flow means more than the dictionary meaning of moving steadily and continuously.  It is also about feeling in control and moving at the pace needed without fuss and nonsense.   It’s not to say that the day runs smoothly in this pattern but by setting that intention first thing in the morning, whenever my day seems to be going the exact opposite I can take some deep breaths, remember that intention and re-focus myself.  It does wonders in bringing me back down from stressful situations, calming the nerves when they are frazzled and reminding me that is not how I want my day to be.

Sometimes you may set an intention for a part of your day or even a moment in your day. If you are heading into a meeting or to see someone your intention could be “I intend to feel confident and in control”, “I intend to really connect with my colleagues” or “I intend to really make a contribution in today’s meeting”.  By having that intention at the forefront of your mind it helps you to stay true to how you want this part of your day to progress and keep you moving forward in your chosen direction.

Here are some more that I love:

I intend to nurture and nourish myself today (that was me on New Year’s Day)

I intend to have fun and adventure with my family today

I intend to show kindness and love to all those I am with today

It is important that you find the ones that suit you and they don’t have to start with “I intend”.  Some times for me they sound more like:

Today I choose to be grateful

Today I will show love and kindness to everyone I meet

Today I choose to nourish my heart and soul

I truly believe using this simple practice will incorporate a little magic into your life.  It is simple and quick and reminds you how you want to be living your life. I would love to hear how you use intentions to shape your moments, days, weeks and lives.  Do you have a ritual for intention setting or is it simply a couple of moments where you know exactly how you want your day to run?

I hope your day is full of all the things your heart desires, I hope you are living with intention and choosing the life of your dreams.

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Listen to your heart – My favourite daily practice

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I love to meditate.  It’s something only relatively new to me, maybe only the last 6 months.  I like to try and meditate everyday but I seem to go through ebbs and flows with it.  When I manage to do it regularly I can really feel the difference.  I am happier, I am lighter and I have more faith.

 

I mean more faith in myself.  It grounds me and brings me back to my inner self.  It allows me the space to sort out all the chatter in my mind and brings a degree of calm and peaceful emotion over me.  It separates the rubbish going around in my head from the real gems, the things I should be thinking and feeling and the actions I should be taking.

 

For me, I love to sit in my special chair, sit in silence for a while until I feel grounded, grab a deck of tarot or oracle cards and do myself a mini reading and then journal my thoughts.  The silence at the start is really my key to unlocking the details I write down later.  It never seems to be anything negative just messages of pure love and joy.  Sometimes the messages are a mini action plan of what is important to achieve but it is never soured with a negative or full of reasons why it cannot be done.

 

That’s why I find this activity so incredibly amazing and the single thing that has changed my life for the better and made so many things clear to me.

 

There are many ways to meditate and sometimes it takes practice to find the one that suits you the most.  I know some people prefer to use guided meditations or even attend group classes.  It can be as simple as sitting out in nature or just closing your eyes for a few precious moments.    It is whatever works for YOU.  Really to me I think it is about quieting the mind and focusing on my breath.  This creates a sense of calmness to me like no other and allows that mind chatter to diminish.  So what ever helps to quiet your mind and bring you back to the amazing energy that you actually are, is the perfect way to meditate for you.

 

Do you enjoy meditation and how do you do your practice?  Is it something you do on a daily basis or when you can fit it in?  I do let it slide some days but I know the days I make time for it I am a better person all round and ready to take on the days challenges with more clarity and increased enthusiasm.

 

So today is the day I pledge I will not let it slip again, today is the day I reaffirm to myself that I am worth it and this practice is one I will make the time for, I hope you will join me.

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Photo taken at Crystal Castle and Shambhala Gardens, Mullumbimby, NSW. 

A Fresh Start

green juiceWell welcome to 2015 and welcome to my very first blog post. It seemed kind of appropriate to start here on the first day of a fresh shiny new year.

Now don’t let that photo fool you, this place is not all about green juices and nutrition, because there is so much more that goes into honouring your heart and soul. I did start off my morning this way because I knew that is what my body needed. And I think that is the heart of the matter, sometimes we just know what we need and I think its important to listen and follow that inner voice. After a little too much indulgence over the festive period and many late nights my body was screaming out for some pure nutrition so that is what it got!

I hope you can spend this first day of the year with the ones you love (plenty of family time here coming up) and honouring yourself by giving yourself exactly what you need – right now.

I hope you stay with me on this journey – of self discovery – of all things love, light, positivity and spirituality. I hope in some way I can help you to live with heart and soul.

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